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How to choose between your passion and a paycheck

by Jayme on August 21, 2008

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If you had a choice between pursuing your passion and getting a job with a steady paycheck, which one would you choose?

After I spoke to a room full of students in a career talk session months ago, one of them asked: “How do I pursue my passion if it is deemed an unprofitable career?”

The young girl said she wanted to be a theater actress. But her parents want her to study nursing, to go abroad as a caregiver and to earn dollars she could send back home.

She was still in high school and her parents are the ones spending to send her to college so “disobeying” their wishes was something she said she could not do.

But what about her dream of becoming a theater actress?

Remember how we were dreamers?

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When we were kids, dreaming and having an ambition was an easy thing.

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” somebody asks.

And we would just say it out loud. “I want to be a doctor!” “I want to be a lawyer!” “I want to be a ballerina!” “I want to be a movie star!”

We say it with certainty, fully believing that our dreams would come true someday.

But the sad thing is, when we grow older, we suddenly become aware of the harsh realities of life.

  • Wealth versus poverty.
  • Being ambitious versus being practical.
  • Pursuing your passion in life versus having a real job.

More often than not, being practical and getting a real job wins over pursuing our dreams and our passions.

We are told that we need to have real jobs that can put clothes on our backs, a roof over our heads and food on the table.

We are told that it would be stupid to pursue something just because we want to especially if there is no salary or profit guaranteed.

Bottom line: We need to earn money to survive.

We see many of them: people who jump onto the wheel and get stuck in jobs they don’t even like doing because they need to earn money to pay the bills.

They comfort themselves saying, “It’s okay. I’ll get to do what I want someday.”

But when will that someday come?

For passion and money

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One of the best pieces of advice I picked up from reading self-development books is this:

Find out what your passion is and devote your life to make a living out of it.

Oprah loved talking to people and she was real good at it. How did she make a living out of the one thing she loved to do? Have her own talk show.

Sounds simple and easy? Not really.

Before Oprah got her own talk show she first became a host for a radio talk show in Nashville in 1971.

Two years later, she became a TV correspondent and co-anchor for the local news program.

Three years later, she moved to Baltimore and became an anchor for the local 6 o’ clock news.

Two years later, she became a co-host for the local talk show.

Finally, seven years later, she moved to Chicago which became the birthplace and permanent home of “The Oprah Winfrey show.”

Add up all the years together and you’ll see that that it took Oprah 14 years to achieve the ultimate dream.

Since then she had expanded her passion to become a television pioneer, a magazine founder, an actress, and an online leader. On top of that she also became a TV and radio programmer launching shows that help change people lives.

But more than being one of the wealthiest women in the world, her biggest achievement was becoming a living angel extending helping hands to millions of people around the world.

All because she did not choose between her passion and a paycheck.

She acted to make her passion the source for her paychecks.

So how do you do this?

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This is a process I’m going through myself. And to illustrate the steps below, I will be giving my own examples. Normally, these questions would trigger pages and pages of writing in my journal but I’ll just be giving you the condensed answers below.

1. Find out what you are passionate about.

This is a very important step because your passion will guide you to the path you need to take. There is a good list of questions on how to find your passion, but here are a couple to get you started:

Q: What excites you?

A: I get excited when it comes to the area of personal development. You can set me loose in a humongous bookstore, but you’ll only find me in the self help section. The books there are treasures for me because I consider myself a student of life and a work in progress.

Q: What do you love to do?

A: I love reading personal growth books. I love writing in my journal. These two loves have been part of me as far back as I could remember. But I also discovered as I was growing up that I love teaching, conducting speeches and facilitating seminars. In high school, I remember some of us were given the opportunity to be teachers for a day and I loved it immensely. I also loved it when we had public speaking exercises in class and I always chose inspirational pieces from my favorite authors.

Q: What are you good at?

A: I consider writing and speaking as my primary strengths.

Q: If you did not need to earn money for a living, what would you do?

A: I would establish an organization that promotes self-development. Start my own lifestyle show. Write an inspirational and motivational book. My friends say my optimism is inspiring to them. And I consider that one of the greatest compliments I have ever received. I want to inspire and empower people to pursue a passionate and positive life.

Q: What is that one thing that you love to do that you are willing to do it for free?

A: A few months ago, I was invited by my former high school to be part of a career talk session. I wasn’t paid a single cent but I loved every minute of it! Given the chance, I would volunteer again for free.

Take the time to answer these questions for yourself if you still haven’t found your passion or when you need to re-focus your passion.

Remember that when you do this, you have to focus on yourself. This is the time to shut out other people who tell you what to do. Believe in the power of possibilities. Replace thoughts like “I can’t do this” or “This is simply not possible” to ” I can do this” and “If I act, anything is possible.”

2. Brainstorm ways you can make a living out of your passion.

Now this is a challenging part because it’s often easier to just think about the usual ways to earn a living like getting a 9 - 5 desk job. Not to mention, easier to implement too.

But remember this, while changing your life for the better means you need to take a huge step forward, it also means you will get a huge reward in the end too: a full life lived with passion and purpose.

When you start thinking of the ways to earn money from your passion, connect it with the things you love to do.

If one thing doesn’t work out, open your mind to other possibilities. For every single thing that doesn’t work out, there has got to be a dozen doors opening up for you. You just have to open your eyes wide so you can see them.

Remember too that it has to be something that feels natural to you. Because if it doesn’t, then it probably means it’s not what you should be doing in the first place.

A personal example: I wanted to establish a career on television and dreamed of making it big just like Oprah. I thought it would be cool to follow her path and be a news anchor first. So I took action, I applied believing it was the one for me without really thinking if it was the right path to take.

But the moment I started my audition and faced the camera, I felt like fish out of water. It all seemed so unnatural to me. I was made to annotate a video footage taken of soldiers engaged in warfare and I went blank.

All the while I was thinking: “What are you doing auditioning for a news anchor position? You don’t read the news. You don’t like news!”

Who was I kidding? I didn’t like covering stories that dealt with death, war, crime, politics, corruption and all the negative things you can come up with. Yet there I was putting myself on the spot.

Later on, I realized, I mixed up making it big with making a difference.

Being on TV sure gives me a shot at fame but that is not the only way I can pursue my passion.

So what other doors could open for me?

Blogging because it comes so naturally for me. It’s just like writing in my journal only that you get to read it.

How will I make a living out of it?

By making my blog an income earner. And if you’ve been around the blogosphere long enough, you’ll know of those people who are making a steady income off their blogs. I’m just taking baby steps but that is a path I’m exploring now.

Another option is becoming a professional motivational speaker. Judging from the career talk experience I mentioned above, it was definitely something I’m all fired up about. In the future, I’d like to expand it by actually conducting seminars and workshops that would not be just about speaking and motivating people but real doing and moving people to take action and see results.

I’m sure there other ways I can explore my passion. (If you’ve got suggestions, I would appreciate them too.) But these are the doors I’d like to enter now. If and when I do close them, I’ll just move forward and open another.

3. Make a plan based on your answers in number 2.

Take it easy and just explore one thing at a time, one step at a time, one day at a time. Remember that planning to perfection may tire you out and get you nowhere. So the best way to go is, make a simple plan and work on it right away.

For example, I’m focusing on blogging and making my blog an income earner. So my basic plan would be like this:

Phase 1:

  1. Determine the focus topics of my blog.
  2. List down possible articles.
  3. Pick one topic and write about it.
  4. Publish on blog.
  5. Repeat letter b to d.

Phase 2:

  1. Get traffic to my blog.
  2. Find advertisers.
  3. Set up income streams on my blog.

Of course, each step is composed of more micro-steps but by just outlining the basic action plan, I already have a good idea of what I need to do to get started.

4. Act on your plan! Now!

Once you’ve got your basic plan, act on the first thing right away. If possible, right now!

Since I decided to relaunch this blog, I have been challenging myself to publish at least one blog post a week. One seems like an awfully low number but right now, it is the most realistic number for me. Once I get the hang of things, I will raise the bar higher and challenge myself to post more frequently.

Right now, what matters to me is I write posts that are easy to understand as well as pleasant to read. More than meeting a weekly quota, I want to post meaningful and valuable entries that would make a difference to you.

Sometimes, I hit a brain slump and I can’t seem to process ideas in my head

Sometimes I get a motivation slump and I just can’t move myself to write.

But one thing’s for sure: I just keep trying and doing it until I get it done.

After I’ve achieved my goals for this blog, then it would be time to expand and reach for bigger goals.

What if….?

You’re really running in a rat race and you can’t afford to stop now or else you’ll be in debt.

You have a family to support and children to feed .

You have no capacity to support yourself yet like the student I mentioned in the beginning of this post.

Are you in a dead end and you have absolutely no choice but to stay where you are?

Only if you choose to.

I believe that in every situation, everyone has a choice. Sometimes we just don’t think we have a choice because the other options are often harder and riskier to take than others,

I am married with two kids and I work in a regular job.

I could either stay in my regular job and benefit from the steady income it would give me or I could just drop everything and plug away at my blog hoping it will bring in the profits fast enough.

Of course, the second option sounds stupid and impractical because I have a family to support but it doesn’t mean I should stay stuck.

The best thing to do: maintain my current job and set aside time to work on my passion project. Until such time that my passion already brings me the paychecks enough so I can quit my regular job.

Sounds hard? Maybe. Workable? Definitely!

I would give the same advice to our confused student. Follow your parents and take the course they want you to. But find ways to explore your passion on the side. Join theater groups, undergo theater training or perform in local plays. When you reach a point that you can make a living out of your passion career, devote your whole life to it and give up everything else.

Re-frame your thinking about your current situation.

Rather than seeing challenges as obstacles, look at them as stepping stones.

It means you have to work harder and manage your time smarter, but when you’re finally living the life of your dreams, you’d know it was all worth it.

How do you choose between your passion and a paycheck?

You don’t.

You find a way to make your passion bring you the paychecks and watch your amazing life unfold.

How are you pursuing your passion?

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What is your life purpose?

by Jayme on May 20, 2008


I slowly opened my eyes to the rays of morning sunshine slipping through the window. “What now?”

I looked outside the window, the skies were blue and there was a soft breeze blowing on my face. It looked like a wonderful day. But for some reason, I felt so heavy as I dragged my feet to the bathroom to get ready for work.

It was like I was operating on auto-pilot as I took a shower, brushed my teeth and got dressed. For me, it was just the beginning of another dragging day.

“What am I doing with my life? Why am I here?”

Have you ever gone through that time when every waking day was such a drag? You feel tired even before your work has begun. Nothing seems to go right and all you want is just to get through the day.

I used to go through my days aimlessly. I allowed myself to fall into a routine and thought I’d just go wherever life takes me.

But what I didn’t realize was I was missing out on having an amazing and wonderful life.

Once I started believing that I was meant for something greater than an automatic work robot, I realized that I needed to determine why I was here.

What was I put on Earth to do?

One day I received a message from a friend that I kept in my phone’s inbox for years. It was one of those random things that turned out to be an important spark for me to realize my life’s purpose. The message read:

“You always say the right things, you always inspire me. You are my angel.”

I had an “aha!” moment. I realized that one of my purposes in life is to inspire people. I am passionate about positivity and self-growth. And whenever my friends come to me for advice, I always try to rub off some of my passion and positivity on them.

But more than just inspiring people, I want to empower them to be the best versions of themselves and to live their best life ever.

One of the best life purpose exercises I came across was the one made by Arnold Patent published in Jack Canfield’s book Success Principles.

Patent’s life purpose exercise is composed of just four steps:
1. List down two of your unique personal qualities.
2. List down two ways you can express those qualities.
3. List down how you envision a perfect world is like.
4. Combine your answers to form your mission statement.

With the help of this exercise, I crafted my life purpose:

To use my passion and positivity to inspire and to empower people to passionately pursue their dreams, to live loving and positive lives, to enjoy success and to experience true happiness.

Why is having a purpose important?

Having a life purpose is important because it will serve as a guide for your actions.

Whenever you do something, ask yourself if it is in accordance with your purpose. This will help you to see your direction more clearly. Everything you do will have a reason and you’ll find that your days become more meaningful.

Waking up with a purpose also helps to energize you because a new day signals another chance for you to fulfill what you were meant to do and to become what you were meant to be.

What is your purpose?

Remember that each one of us has a purpose.

I have a purpose.

(Repeat that statement to yourself. Shout it out if you want.)

Embrace this fact and know that you are a unique human being endowed with talents and skills that will fulfill what you are meant to do and be.

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3 Steps to pursue your passion

by Jayme on May 7, 2008

Once you’ve found your passion, how do you begin?

When you’ve figured out what your passion is, you will tend to go in two directions: either you feel so fired up and raring to get moving or you feel so overwhelmed and your fear of starting a big thing leads to procrastination.

Fork in the road

Lucky you if you took the first direction.

As for me, I got overwhelmed.

I mentioned before that this blog is part of my efforts to pursue my passion. But just when I was starting to think of all the great possibilities this blog held for me, I felt like I was flooded with so many ideas that I drowned into procrastination.

For weeks, I was content with staying under the water, scared to see what I needed to do or who I needed to be.

But I knew I couldn’t stay there for long if I wanted to get somewhere, so I pushed myself up and got my head out of the water.

Where do I begin?

Going on any journey begins with one step and if you persist to take the following steps after that, you will soon get to your destination.

Step 1: Set a specific goal that fulfills your passion.

Goals
You can start with a small goal or you can set a big goal, whatever it is, make it very specific. This will help you to chart the next steps and to focus your efforts.

For example, if you are very passionate about writing, instead of saying “I want to be a writer,” think about what kind of writer you want to be, what you’d like to write or where you want your writing to be published.

What excites you? Is it being a lifestyle magazine writer, a fiction writer, or a blogger? Do you want to publish an article in a local newspaper, accomplish a best-selling novel about whirlwind romance or blog for a channel of a big blog network?

You have to be decisive about what you want.

I’m pretty sure those little critics in your head will start to say “Who are you to even dream that?” “That’s impossible!” “You can’t do it.” Mute them right away. Better yet, throw them out the window.

You know what the truth is:

You are somebody and you can dream anything.

Your dream is possible.

You can do it.

Step 2: Break it down really small.

When you’ve specified your goal, it’s time to draw up an action plan. Make a list of the tasks you need to do to accomplish your goal.

If you’re a self-confessed procrastinator, break down your tasks really, really small. Oftentimes, we put offL is for Lists doing things when they seem too big for us. But when we start with small tasks first, they build up one over the other until the whole task is accomplished.

Taking off from the example above, let’s say your specific goal is you want to be a lifestyle magazine writer, your set of tasks could be:

  1. Search for tips on writing lifestyle magazine articles.
  2. Read tips on writing lifestlye magazine articles.
  3. Make a list of topics for possible magazine articles.
  4. Pick a topic for a possible magazine article.
  5. Write an outline for your chosen topic.
  6. Write the article.
  7. Review and proofread the article.
  8. Search for magazines that accept contributions.
  9. Call the magazine’s publishing company and ask for submission requirements.
  10. Accomplish submission requirements.
  11. Submit your work.

Just do one thing at a time then when you’ve worked your way through your list, start over.

Step 3: Make time.

Everlasting / ??Now you know what to do, make time to do it.

Remember this is your dream and this is just as important as any paying job you are engaged in.

Oftentimes, we convince ourselves that we are too busy to do this or we don’t have time. But the fact is, we’re just hiding behind our busy-ness because we’re scared to start what could possibly be a big thing.

Dump the “I don’t have time” excuse. You have plenty of time if you decide to manage it wisely. Whether it’s waking up earlier in the morning, setting aside your lunch break or sleeping later at night, you can find time to do the things that matter to you.

Set a realistic time frame for yourself. Don’t boldly proclaim “I’ll write this article in one day” and beat yourself up when you don’t finish it.

Make an honest assessment of your skills and determine how much time you’ll really need. Some tasks will naturally take longer than others. Once you’ve set your time frame, do your damn best to stick to it.

You might see all those successful people and marvel at their wonderful lives. If you’re wondering how they got there, one of the things they did was to make time to do what it takes to be there.

If you’re wondering why they’re up there and you’re still stuck here, it’s because you chose to just watch them.

Stop watching other people live their dreams and start living your own!

Prepare to face two enemies

When you start gaining momentum in pursuing your passion, you have to prepare to face two enemies: procrastination and rejection.

Procrastination hits everyone every time, but you don’t need to be it’s victim.

When you find yourself procrastinating, return to your list of tasks and do just one thing.

Remember, do just one thing.

When you’ve finished that one task, bask in the feeling of accomplishment and use that to rev up your momentum.

As for rejection, don’t take it personally.

When we get rejected, we tend to spiral down into the self-pity pit and think “I’m not good enough” thoughts. Stop right there!

Accept the fact that you cannot satisfy every one’s needs and there will be times when you don’t fit the bill. That doesn’t mean that your talent amounts to nothing. It just means you haven’t found the right match or the right market for your skill. Just keep on trying.

When your work is criticized, listen only to what is constructive, take what will help you improve your craft and discard all the rest. Then try again.

Just take it one step at a time

Step 1: Set a specific goal that fulfills your passion. It’s okay to start small.

Step 2: Break it down really small and list down all the tasks you need to do to achieve your goal.

Step 3: Make time to accomplish your tasks and make sure that the time frame you set is realistic for you.

When pursuing your passion, remember that it’s like taking the stairs, just take it one step at a time and you’ll find yourself at the top soon enough.

Himmelstreppe / Stairway to heaven

Credits:
Fork in the road: Creative Commons License photo credit: tonystl
Goals: Creative Commons License photo credit: stilllearninghowtofly - W W Tribe Psychiatrist
Lists: Creative Commons License photo credit: Swiv
Time: Creative Commons License photo credit: * Cati Kaoe *
Stairway to heaven: Creative Commons License photo credit: Curnen

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How to find your passion

by Jayme on April 7, 2008

Creativity by Timothy Hamilton
“What’s your passion?”

I asked my friend once when we were having dinner.

“You know what, I haven’t really thought about it. Why do you ask?”

“Well, ” I said, “It just occurred to me that we’ve been working for the past six years and I just thought if this is what we really want to be doing for the rest of our lives.”

What is passion?

In my first post about this site, I found several meanings of passion.

And in my personal quest for passion, I’ve come up with my own definitions.

Passion drives you to do something and be somebody.

When you tap into your passion, it just infuses you with this tremendous energy and power. It fills you with confidence so that you can say to yourself, “I can be somebody.”

Passion is something you get excited about.

Your passion gives you that thrilling sensation. It brings you that natural high that moves you to do more and be more.

Passion is something you enjoy doing.

In fact, you enjoy doing it so much, you lose track of time when you do it. No matter the effort involved, it still feels effortless and it’s almost as if you don’t get tired at all.

Passion is something you’re good at.

You’ll find that your interests veer toward your passion. More than that, you’ll find that you are equipped to pursue your passion because your skills and talents are geared to fulfill it.

Are you beginning to form an idea of what your passion is?

Most people have a vague idea about their passion while some don’t even know what it is.

Most of the time, we have a tendency to fall into the rat race. We work tirelessly because we need to earn money. Sometimes (maybe most of the time), we don’t even like our jobs. Then we get burned out and feel that our life is going nowhere.

At one point, I realized that if I wanted to turn my life around, I needed to get serious about pursuing my passion.

I didn’t want to look back at my life and see how I’ve wasted years just earning money, scraping by to get a living when I haven’t really lived my life.

I realized that taking the time to find my passion was an important step in the journey to personal success.

So I made an honest evaluation of myself, answered some questions and let my ideas flow.

Once I found out what my passion was, the purpose of my life became clearer.

Why is passion important?

Passion helps us find our purpose.

This is one of the most important reasons for you to find your passion.

Passion and purpose are partners.

When you know what your passion is, you know what you can share to the world and it stimulates to find ways how to share it.

Waking up in the morning becomes more meaningful because you now have a vision. You begin to understand why you are here.

Passion helps to chart your direction.

When you have a vision, you develop a mission. You can see where you want to go, so you can start to plot how to get there. Now that you have a goal, you can determine the steps to achieve it.

Passion gives you fulfillment.

When you live your life according to your purpose, you feel fulfilled. When you know that you’ve possibly helped somebody or inspired someone by what you do, you begin to feel a deeper sense of who you are and what you are meant to do. And you just feel how wonderful life really is.

Passion makes you happy.

Fulfillment makes you happy because it makes you feel grateful for who you are and for how the world brings out the best in you.

How do you find your passion?

Finding one’s passion maybe easier for some more than others.

If you have a talent for singing and you love to perform on stage, for example, you passion may be more obvious, even automatic.

For others, it may take a series of introspections, mistakes and small discoveries before they can figure out what their passion is.

If you’re one of those who can’t figure our their passion just yet, don’t worry. It doesn’t mean you don’t have it. It’s just there waiting to be discovered,

When you decide that you’re ready to find your passion, you will need the following:

  1. Some alone time in a quiet place. Early morning and late evening work best for me. Whatever time and place you pick, make sure you’re free from external pressures, deadlines and other distractions.
  2. A pen and paper. Write down your ideas and thoughts. Writing helps to clear your head, to put some structure to your wayward thoughts and to free your thinking. Seeing your thoughts on paper also helps you to visualize them better.
  3. Anything that motivates or inspires you. Mood music, a good book, a photograph. These can help you unlock your deepest memories, your loftiest dreams and your innermost desires all of which can lead you to discover your passion.
  4. Honesty. This is one of the most important things you’ll need to know your passion, You need to be true to yourself and what you really want. No holds barred,

Questions to help unlock your passion

To help unlock your passion, I will share with you some key questions I have used to find mine:

  1. What excites me?
  2. What am I good at ?
  3. What are my talents and skills?
  4. What do I love to do?
  5. What have I always wanted to be?
  6. Who are the people I admire?
  7. How do I want to see myself 20 years from now?
  8. How do I want to be remembered when I die?

If you can’t answer these questions all at once, let them brew in your mind if you need to.

Be in tune with yourself, observe your surroundings and take cues from your daily experiences.

The answers may just hit your suddenly. Be patient and the answers will come.

Be warned though that when you finally find your passion, it might occupy your mind, drive your days and throw you in for an adventure that’s big, exciting and scary all at the same time.

Of course, knowing your passion is just the first step. Pursuing it and fulfilling it will certainly require some effort.

But when you do, the results can be life-changing. It can give you a life more wonderful and more amazing than you ever imagined.

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